9 Safety Issues to Discuss When Moving In with a Significant Other


When you move in with your significant other, you need to get used to one another’s habits. Most couples only worry about issues like cleanliness, sleep schedules, needing alone time, or differences in decorating tastes. But the habits your partner had before moving in with you may also be ones that could put your safety at risk.

Here are nine safety issues to discuss when moving in with a significant other.

Being private about travel

If you take vacations together, make sure your partner doesn’t post photos from the trip until you’re back home. You should also ensure he/she doesn’t post statuses online about your travels. Even simply checking into the airport through Facebook can tell strangers that your home is vacant. Perhaps you’ve always been good about keeping travel private until you get home, but now you have a live-in partner who may not be as careful.

Not announcing when you’re home alone

If your partner is going on a trip and leaving you home alone for a few days, make sure he doesn’t announce it publicly. You never know who is listening. Once again, he shouldn’t share his travel status online, either. A house that is only guarded by one person rather than two is always more vulnerable, so you don’t want the general public knowing only one resident is home.

Who gets a spare key?

Have a rule stating that neither of you hands out a spare key until clearing it with the other. You should both agree that someone can have a spare key before handing it out. If your partner feels  uncomfortable with a friend or family member of yours having a key, you need to respect his decisions, as he must respect yours.

Leaving the parking spot for the latecomer

If you only have one parking spot, then the individual who gets home in daylight should park on the street, leaving the spot for the other who will arrive late at night. You wouldn’t want the latecomer to have to walk for blocks back to the house after dark.

Concealing expensive items

Make sure neither of you leaves expensive items out in an area where strangers can see them. If your partner borrows your laptop, for example, ask that he always put it back somewhere private or concealed from view. If you want to peruse his vintage record collection, you should always put his precious records back in a drawer when you’re done with them.

Collecting packages

You should both stay in the habit of keeping an eye on the mail area and bringing in packages the moment they arrive. If you allow mail or packages to stack up outside, burglars may think you aren’t home, and attempt to break in.

Supervising plumbers, handymen etc.

Never leave any professionals inside your home unsupervised. If you are expecting a plumber or handyman, speak to your partner and organize your schedules so that one of you will be home to supervise.

Rules regarding throwing parties

Can you throw parties? Can guests bring guests? Will you give guests the gate code if your building has a gate? These are very important things to discuss before hosting a large group.

Consulting on house guests

You should always consult one another before inviting someone to stay overnight in your home. It’s important that each of you feels safe with whoever is sleeping under your roof.

The bottom line

Now that you live together, you have to think of how your habits affect one another—from sleep schedules to safety and security.

Posted on Thursday, April 12th, 2018